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[superborb]

1. I had been reading my DW on a comfortable once a week schedule, which has been thrown into disarray by the introduction of my JE friends back onto DW, via a 30 day music meme. Will people actually do all 30 days of the meme? Who knows, but day 3 x a half dozen folks is an extra ?skip=20 already ahaha.

2. I was going back and reading my diary from college (which I apparently kept up until the beginning of grad school! I kind of thought I'd stopped midway through college...); it's not very interesting as it mostly contains who I talked to every day. At the end of college though, I already knew I'd miss the casual chats in dining halls and hallways and never be able to replicate that again; the diary really reinforced that. Even if I include fannish discord chats as casual chats, it's really... not the same... But it did bring to mind a few people I want to reach out to, which was nice! 

3. Awh, I looked over my twitter list and DID lose complete contact with a few people who left before I got a forwarding address / didn't bother with a forwarding address. Though I think most are still in my extended someone-on-DW-still-talks-to-them circle. (But at the same time, how much good does a discord 1:1 PM do in terms of keeping in contact? Not much. I'm generally terrible at keeping 1:1 messages going. Maybe I should make more concerted effort to form group chats...)

4. I think my Tumblr foray is probably a failure. Useful for occasionally checking in on people, but even filtering out the 'so many gifs', it's difficult to sort between 'things interesting to me personally' and 'discourse, not expanding my knowledge' without way too much effort expended ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

(I have a Bluesky now, but unless there's vastly more uptake, my primary fannish socmed will remain Mastodon.)

5. Have been losing steam on the DCU fic reading, but now I feel completionist about an arbitrary level of surveying, which seems counterproductive. It's arbitrary to begin with! It'd never have been anywhere near a full survey! Self, this is silly. 

Comments

[gdgdbaby]

we're in your dreamwidth, taking over your reading lists 🤣 at the very least maybe you'll find some new music to listen to!

i'm still on the waitlist for bluesky and i very occasionally pop my head into mastodon but i think being active in various discords and then scrolling through the dregs of twitter is still gonna be my main social media intake. though this return to the journaling format hasn't been bad either, so maybe a month of activity will encourage more people to come back??? a girl can dream...

[superborb]

Definitely yes on the music! Hahaha and people have been posting really interesting long-ish responses, maybe because of pent up writing energy.

Discord is so hard as a primary socmed though... I feel like I always think it's too active or not active enough, never the goldilocks amount lol

[gdgdbaby]

that's true! it's been cool to see where people take the prompts, some days i'm like "oh this is pretty straightforward" but there's always some surprise as i scroll.

yeah that's a good point, it's definitely a difficult balance to strike. i think we've talked about this a bit in various group chats but i vastly prefer the smaller group chat servers to the larger, more free-for-all open community servers because they're easier to keep up with and i care more about the people involved because they're already my friends. those are of course more slow-moving with sudden spurts/flurries of activity depending on what's going on any given day. but for me personally, after everything that went on in our previous fandom, i've been enjoying the extended break from caring about what anyone else in wider fandom has to say, lmao. i guess that could change as i get further away from the "being heavily involved in a very active fandom with a lot of appalling wank and tiresome drama" period of my life 🤔 we'll see lmao

[superborb]

Yeah, I've never really been long term able to hang out in the larger open servers, especially since they (in my limited experience) tend to go in waves as new people enter / old people stop checking in. More changeable? Though I guess it's needed when it's a fandom focused server that people lose interest in...

But definitely feeling a smaller fandom is needed next! Or at least one where there's more separation.

[geckoholic]

Wanna give me your Bluesky for friending purposes? 👀

[superborb]

I'm superborb there! The follow button was broken for me for a while there; I'll take another pass at it later...

[chestnut_pod]

Oh, what music meme is this? I'd like a musical skip-20 in my life.

It's always interesting to hear about others' experiences rereading diaries. As you say, sometimes I wonder what the use is, and sometimes I remember that the small details are often what I miss.

[superborb]

It's a JE specific one! https://funkytownosaka.dreamwidth.org/468.html

I wish I had put down more small details! Ahaha or any details... I guess the lower energy barrier meant I kept up with it for a long time though.

[halfcactus]

- I miss just how much easier it was to make friends and be social in college (even/especially as an un-social person). ;___;

- I also just can't do 1:1 DMs because they stress me out and they actually are very hard to sustain compared to just chatting with them in their socials, but tbh I really don't know where I'm at socially lately, both online and offline. Which is why I really miss college, lol.

- I've also really been struggling with Tumblr which makes me feel kinda? weird? because it used to be my main space. Not being able to filter has been a dealbreaker because at least on Twitter I can navigate with my lists. Maybe it's just that I'm no longer really in fandom or fannish about anything. I do log in every now to do a cursory scroll and post niche GIFs/videos. I still encounter cool/funny things, but I basically skip text posts now... But here's (the last reply) a cute thread about cats.

- I've seen a lot of artists that I follow set up their accounts/talk about moving to Bluesky but nobody (besides you) I know is actually on that! Most people I follow is still on Twitter. More importantly, dramapotatoe is also still on Twitter, and that's where the cdrama community revolves. XD

[superborb]

I didn't know you used to be on tumblr! Though I guess most of the NiF contingent probably was, because that's where early NiF fandom was, right?

I think not being fannish about anything in particular probably does hurt, yeah.

See, I don't like that twitter cdrama fandom revolves around that kind of thing, and that's probably why I'm not able to get more fannishly involved in it.

[halfcactus]

Tumblr used to be my main space! After LJ, I was there when it was a simple non-fandom blogging platform (one image per post only!), and I experienced it transforming into a fandom platform. My main medium is GIFs/graphics so Tumblr was the ideal place for me for a while. It really was a good place for discovering art/design! Now the artists and designers are no longer congregated there.

And yeah that's where early NiF fandom started, but I didn't really get into the fandom until NiF Exchange. It took me so long to join the Discord because I was so scared.

Re: cdrama Twitter - yeah it's not "fandom" as we know it, but I like having a neutral resource account to keep me updated and watching my circle react to news. XD I like how casual it is, and especially because I curate my experience so carefully and have a small account, I'm able to interact with people of a more similar wavelength to me even when we have very different tastes, compared to Dreamwidth and Discord. Discord is much better for wider and more in-depth discussion, but you need to have the right size and the right demographic haha.

[superborb]

Oh interesting! I guess I came back and Discord was already big haha. But yeah, not easy to curate on Discord at all...

[elliferous]

I was never really able to maintain a diary when I was younger (I have a couple where I only put in maybe 5 entries, although they're still a riot to read), but I'm on year 4 of a 5 year journal!! It doesn't have a ton of space to write in for each day - just a few sentences - but I feel like that makes it feel less intimidating. It's also a bit more motivating knowing I'm leaving something for future me to read a year, 2 years from now.

Also it helps that I have a lot of stationery now and thus have to use up said stationery...

[superborb]

Oh yeah, I remember you telling me about it! I liked being able to ctrl+f my old diary lol. I do also have a physical one from when I was really young that I actually filled (!!!) but it's even further removed and not as interesting...

[nnozomi]

(Late as usual) It's so neat to go back and read old diaries, especially the ones that go into detail about talking with people--I think that sounds plenty interesting, at least if there's even a little about what you talked about, or how you felt about it! A handy past-self time-capsule. (I realized a while back that my main motivation in my teens and twenties for diary-writing was unrequited love/crushes, and these days I don't have that FEELINGS MUST GO SOMEWHERE motivation, and it cuts down on the diary-writing a lot, which I think is a shame...)

[superborb]

(I'm usually even later than that lol) The problem is that I basically never wrote down /what/ we talked about! ._.

Huh, I guess I usually do end up blogging when I have FEELINGS even now, so it's universal motivation...!

[lirazel]

I miss the communal living of college so much!

I think my Tumblr foray is probably a failure. Useful for occasionally checking in on people, but even filtering out the 'so many gifs', it's difficult to sort between 'things interesting to me personally' and 'discourse, not expanding my knowledge' without way too much effort expended ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Yeah, that makes sense. It's too bad that people don't really run, say, blogs that just reblog meta for specific fandoms. That would be perfect for you!

[superborb]

Oh, the long lost days of fannish newsletters! But those were a ton of work, so I'm not surprised they've disappeared.